Porn
Make it a regular thing
Every so often, choose a couple of movies together and have a night in. If you continue to let her play an integral role in the choosing of the movies, she will respond more favorably and not feel like she's being led down the garden path.
To take this a step further, if she associates your special, secret night in with enhanced sexual expression and some all-important connecting time -- perhaps buy a special bottle of wine (or three) and have an adventuresome sex date at home -- she'll probably book you in every month.
This means your movie stash will grow as time goes by, and a good range of erotica will be viewed -- she may even start to know what she likes and (hopefully) become much more enthusiastic about the whole process. It can be a special thing you do together, and will more than likely be loads of fun. And let’s face it: There is nothing better than having a wonderful time with your nearest and dearest -- especially if you can get her to watch porn in the process.
What not to do
Do not, under any circumstances, force her to do or watch something she isn’t ready for. She will be put off forever. Some people -- not only women -- find porn very offensive, and this may mean that finds you offensive for liking it. That is why the discussion -- totally hypothetical, of course, and feel free to use your good friend John's friend-of-a-friend example -- is so vitally important. No doubt you already know that porn is not most women’s favorite topic overall, so tread gently and don’t expect her to fall in love with Stacey V. or Jenna overnight -- even though it is entirely possible that she might.
Don’t compare her unfavorably to the female leads, either. This does not include referencing, which you are most welcome to do, such as, “That looks like it would feel good, could you try that on me?” Or even better, “I bet you could do that way better than her.”
Keep your eyes and ears open for any signs she is not having such a good time, and be sensitive to this -- try not to let your desire overcome your receptiveness to her feelings. If you seem like you’re having a great time, she may not want to be a wet blanket and ruin your fun. Women often hide their feelings in a bid not to appear prudish. This is not what it’s about -- it is about both of you enjoying yourselves, not just you having an excuse to watch porn without getting into trouble.
Most importantly, don’t ever use porn as a substitute for intimacy with her. This is generally what annoys women the most about porn: Their men can spend literally hours in front of it, yet neglect the real woman who is right there in their life. If you think you have a problem with porn, get some help or you may end up with only your movies and magazine to keep you company.
Do not discuss your porn plans with your mates. Certainly, it may be brag-worthy, but keep it private -- it's much more "special" that way.
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If you are sensitive to her needs and desires, as always with women, you will get ahead in leaps and bounds. Treating her like a respected friend and lover will mean she has more reason to feel safe and be more adventurous with your suggestions -- and her own. Honest, open communication about what you want and need out of your relationship and sex life goes a long way too. Keep it light and fun -- porn is not supposed to be serious and solemn, it’s supposed to be sexy, one way or another.
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